Ruined
Ruth Everhart
Top 10 Best Quotes
“Once you survive trauma, outrage is the warning bell that sounds when you hear truth being distorted by those who haven’t passed through shadowed valleys. Because you have endured trauma, you can detect their lies. Maybe it’s like having survived the measles or the flu. Your body now has some small measure of immunity and recognizes that same poison when it tries to invade again. I wish you would never have to know trauma. But when trauma does appear in your path, don’t fear it. There are things you can’t fight. Still, by God’s power, you will prevail. Our God brings life out of death. Sometimes there is no option except to let the waves of trauma engulf you for a time. Just trust that they will recede again. What’s left in you will rise up afterward, and that will be enough. More than enough! There’s more to you than you know. There is more to God than you know. Trust that the trauma will leave gifts in its wake—hard gifts like outrage and perspective. Maybe this is what faith is: this trusting that God will bring something new and beautiful out of the pain.”
“You are more than your virginity. You are more than your sexual history. You are more than what happens to you. You are immensely valuable. No wound can ever make you less than whole. Wounds become scars, and scars make a person beautiful.”
“...trauma happens to everyone, sooner or later, to some degree. Once you survive trauma, outrage is the warning bell that sounds when you hear truth being distorted by those who haven't passed through shadowed valleys.”
“...outrage is one of the gifts a person receives after enduring trauma.”
“Whether our will conforms to the will of God is an important factor in the shape of our lives.”
“So I said, “I’ve kept that page all these years because the article is about my life, in a way. A long time ago I was the victim of a crime.” “Rapist-robber? Oh, Mom”—your face twisted up—“you mean you weren’t a virgin when you married Dad! Poor you!” It was a shock to realize that your understanding of sexual violence was being filtered through the language of sexual purity. I felt that I had failed you. The church had failed you. Women are not merely virgins or victims. There’s more to living in a woman’s skin than staying a virgin. So you and I had more conversations after that.”
“I needed a man who wasn't afraid of some dirt.”
“I knew, piercingly and beyond a doubt, that my mother had always loved me, just as I already loved my yet unnamed daughter. Imperfectly, but fiercely.”
“How could I bear it if something or someone ever hurt this child? I was suddenly cognizant that there were innumerable ways that my world could be shattered now - ways I'd never imagined. I could count the number of minutes my daughter had been alive, and already I glimpsed that love holds in itself the seeds of great suffering.”
“God will fulfillHis purposes in ways we don't understand. So yes, whatever God gives us on earth is a blessing. Even if it's not what we want.”
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Book Keywords:
trauma, love, scars, god-s-will, relationships, personal-will, authenticity, worth, woundedness, outrage, motherhood, suffering, virginity
