How to Fall in Love with Anyone: A Memoir in Essays
Mandy Len Catron
Top 10 Best Quotes
“Extraordinary love was not defined by the intensity with which you wanted someone, but by generosity and kindness and a deep sense of friendship”
“You find someone who makes you better (which is no small feat, to be sure)--because you are inspired by his generosity, because he is somehow both fierce and gentle and this shows you a new way to be brave--and then you just choose him. But maybe you don't choose him once, maybe you have to choose him over and over again.”
“My job was not to choose a good person to love, but rather to be good to the person I'd chosen.”
“It reminds us that love isn’t something that happens to us — it’s something we’re making together.”
“Love stories have endings, but love itself is ongoing and continually warped and renewed by the people who do the loving.”
“Traister points out that our assumptions about single women are often guided by “an unconscious conviction that, if a woman is not wed, it’s not because she’s made a set of active choices, but rather that she has not been selected—chosen, desired, valued enough.” But these assumptions are misguided. She points out that while there are some drawbacks to a single life, there are just as many ways to be lonely, unhappy, disappointed, or bored within a marriage. For many women, a life of independence and autonomy is at least as rewarding as marriage.”
“If the institution of marriage really is failing, maybe it’s because it is no longer the only—or even the best—model for how to make a happy life.”
“The Cinderella narrative is so ubiquitous–and so integrated into how we think about love–that it’s easy to dismiss. I spent years thinking someone would notice me eventually as long as I dedicated myself to being good and sweet and modest and basically unnoticeable. When I started my first serious relationship, I didn’t notice that my boyfriend’s goal was to become an interesting person through having interesting experiences; whereas I hoped to prove my worth by being loved by the most interesting person I knew: him.”
“Mark says that when I am frustrated his I love you means it's okay for me to be frustrated - a reminder that my feelings are situational and temporary. "And because I love you even when you are annoyed and I want you to know," he adds.”
“In a community that values contentment over pickiness, you must also be satisfied with your spouse. Calling something not good enough is a kind of betrayal. And you are not simply betraying the person to whom you made that lifetime commitment; you are also, in a way, betraying your community and family. If life is hard for everyone, who are you to have everything you need and still say, 'This won't do anymore'?”
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